So You’ve Found Evidence of Infidelity on your Spouses Computer. . .

As mad as you may be, DON’T THROW IT AWAY and DON’T CONFRONT YOUR SPOUSE. This is the single biggest mistake I hear from people (mostly men) who have found information on their spouse’s computer which indicates a relationship. While many people today feel that their home computer has become a necessity, it has also opened up a wide community of people at the stroke of a keyboard looking to “connect” with others. This “connection” is leading more and more marriages to divorce. Online chat rooms, dating sites, pornography, social networking sites, free email accounts, etc. has contributed to many failed marriages. While the offending spouse begins innocently flirting, that innocent flirting often times turns into something more serious - a relationship. They feel that their new “connection” listens, understands, cares.

When you come across information that indicates that your spouse may be cheating, don’t react outwardly. Do the following: (1) Breathe. (2) Don’t let on to your spouse that you have any suspicions. (3) Find a time when you can safely search the computer for other evidence of the relationship. When you find something that indicates the relationship exists, print it. Also, if you are computer savvy, save the information to a cd or other media. Keep looking until you are satisfied that you have found as much as you can. Then remove what you’ve found from the home and keep it safely where your spouse will not find it. (It does you no good to do all of this only for your spouse to find it and destroy it.) (4) Don’t let on to your spouse that you have any suspicions. (I know, I’ve already said this. Its really important.)

Then, call us. Let’s explore what options you have. We may want you to remove your computer and have it forensically examined for more evidence by a professional. While this is occurring, you can consider what your next step is, be it confronting your spouse with the idea of counseling and reconciliation, or proceeding with a divorce. Either way, we can help.

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